Have you ever head of a saying like attracts like? This is the universe law, the law of cause and effect.

Emerson once said, “Shallow men believe in lucky, but wise and strong men believe in cause and effect.” The people you attract are the reflection of your own thoughts, attitude within you. Some people look humble but end up attracting bad relationships not because of bad luck, but because of bad way of thinking, that’s what attracts to them such people. Remember thoughts cause all and can fix all, if you understand the power of thought.


This is also true when it comes to friendship, marriage, relationships and parent children relationships etc; as someone said alcoholic habits attracts alcoholic habits, my experience. That’s why many people like hanging out with people who have similar habits.

I came across this wisdom in one the eBook that changed my thinking when it came to being in relationships with girls. A negative, depressed, pessimistic, untidy, emotionally challenged person will more than likely to attract a mirror reflection of him or herself. Too often, people believe they can hide their “defects” forever from a Mr. or Mrs. Perfect who is going to relieve them of their miseries, instead of working on every aspect of themselves to the point that they are happy with themselves completely.

I have a niece just got married recently, she always had this notion that i want to get married to a man who doesn’t Drink BEER, a church guy, Holly Notion and hated people like me who drinks beer, sometimes comes a bit late home, her notion was a perfect guy. But no what she wanted, but she got want she hated, because she focused on what she did not want, today she married to a man who DRINKS Insanely Heavily than me, i just laugh today. Maybe she found perfection in imperfection.

“He is the greatest whose strength carries up the most hearts by the attraction of his own” – Henry Ward Beecher

We often want our idea of the perfect partner to enter our lives and stay forever, yet we are not willing to do what it takes to be the “perfect” partners for someone else. We can prevent ourselves from painful experiences as well as the loss of precious time and energy if we begin by first working on ourselves. Gandhi said, “Be the first change that you want to see in your world.” It’s better to change yourself for better than trying to change your girl friends or husband; and remember if you change and others can’t change, move on with your life and shake dust out of your hands.

A person changes himself if he or she is ready to change. I make mistakes, but I don’t have to hide my imperfection, I have to learn to work to clean my own imperfection; by doing that am being real to others, myself and my life. There is nothing wrong of being imperfect or perfect, but what is wrong is not being “REAL” with yourself and your life. Life was not meant to be understood, but to live life. And the best way to live life is to be REAL WITH YOURSELF AND YOUR LIFE.

“Far too many people are looking for the right person, instead of trying to be the right person” – Gloria Steinem