Some may call him or her a God fearing person, some may say a
humanist, some say a person of good conscience. It doesn’t matter what
you call him or her, all that you mean is someone who can join up with
you and build together.
We all describe the kind of spouse we want according to our beliefs. A God or deity fearing person is good for a religious person whereas a humanist is good for an irreligious person. So what Mr A wants is different from what Mr B wants.
Whichever way, it’s good for us to look at our lifestyle and choose who fits us. We don’t have to choose what our friends chose nor what people say its good for us. It’s the responsibility of every full grown adult to pick up a pen and pen down qualities he or she desires in an opposite sex. Both things he or she can tolerate and the ones he or she can’t. If you want a God fearing person, define what you mean by God fearing person first. Don’t just say I want a God fearing person because everyone is saying the same thing. Because at the end, you might not even know exactly what you are saying. If you want a humanist, define what exactly you mean by that.
Secondly, you must define your purposes of wanting a relationship or a spouse. Do you just want to make children with someone because age is no more on your side or do you want someone that you can live peacefully with apart from making babies. Are you entering into this relationship as a way of transferring your financial needs to someone else or are you going into the relationship to build together. What goals and visions do you want to acquire in life, are you looking for a partner who shares similar goals and visions or if not at least an encourager.
Do you realize that in marriage or relationship, that depressing times often come. Are you looking for someone who won’t kick your ass out or leave you when things are not right.
When we define our purposes of wanting a relationship with all sincerity, getting Mr or Miss Right becomes easier. When we get this person that shares the same goals and visions with us, we get all the encouragement we need.
THIS IS IMPORTANT FOR THOSE WHO ARE LOOKING FOR SOMETHING BEYOND CHILDREN IN MARRIAGE.
WHILE OTHERS ARE REGRETTING WHY THEY GOT MARRIED SOME ARE REALLY ENJOYING THEIRS.